Some react with cries, wails, sobs, or
Shocked silence in which all reactions then become internal.
Others are angry
Angry with the deceased, the disease, the doctors
Angry at themselves
Angry at the situation, circumstances, the unfairness they perceive.
Some deny the facts in front of them.
Grief is a deeply personal process
Each person experiences it differently.
The commonly accepted Stages happen for each individual in their own time,
On their own terms.
Offer kindness, support, comfort, and love to the grief stricken.
Your advice is not necessary.
Encourage them to talk
Listen actively
Reserve all judgments, criticisms, and destructive remarks.
Rather empathetically share your own experiences with grief
And help the suffering lay a plan for their personal process.
Realize there is no set period of time for grief
No deadline by which we reach it's end.
Walk with them hand-in-hand through anger, denial, depression, and bargaining.
Love through all.
Tend the wound.
Celebrate their acceptance whenever it comes.
Accept that, while scars heal, the marks they leave cannot be lost.
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